The wise writer Jiddu Krishnamurti once wrote, “If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”  The root of all change starts with self-understanding. If you don’t understand yourself, your efforts will be lost, and spent on things that are actually not under you control.

Self-understanding isn’t always easy to come by. The best way to do it is to start a productive dialogue with yourself. Clear your schedule, find a quiet place, and ask yourself some of these questions:

1)      What are you most proud of about yourself?

2)      What do you like least about yourself? Why?

3)      What do you believe your weaknesses say about you?

4)      What are you most grateful for?

5)      Who are you most like?

6)      If you could change one thing about your life what would it be?

7)      What motivates you?

8)      What long-term habits do you have?

9)      How do you measure success? How do you currently measure up to that definition?

10)   What are you holding on to from your past? Can you let it go?

Self-understanding is a journey. There will always be new things to discover about yourself—and new paths to success as a result of that understanding.

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Roger Terry

Director of Training and Coaching at Evolution Training Ltd
Roger Terry is one of the world’s leading experts on applying NLP to drive excellence both professionally and personally. Roger leads seminars and consults with companies all over the world, including in the UK, USA, Europe and Middle East. He is the author of several books, including The Hidden Art of Interviewing, NLP and Qualitative Research, NLP for Teachers and The NLP Toolkit.

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